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  1. Tina
    Tina December 17, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    As mothers and sisters, we women, have to take responsibility of giving our boys enough love, care and good values so much so that the new definition of masculinity should be standing up against peer pressure, injustice with all using the God’s gift (physical strength) to the benefit of all. I somehow feel this is also rooted in greed, entitlement, low esteem (she is anyway going to say no to me and I am going to teach her a lesson) and also male ego. Men ,according to me, are not very strong mentally, they will do only things for which they get appreciated for or acknowledged by friends or stronger men. There is an undercurrent which glorifies rape and violence against women. It definitely has it roots in our homes, the mother who this little boy spends his initial stages of life with….Hardly there are any fathers who are keen in bringing up their kids. They come home, watch tv, read newspaper, order tea/coffee and once in awhile the kid sees mom and dad fighting over some extramarital affairs. Kids are not receiving the right signals.

    Avoiding divorce is not the sucess of a marriage or good parent, the real meaning lies in our effort.

  2. Edward Rees
    Edward Rees November 6, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    Very sad, but useful reading. Thanks for reading the whole document and providing a very good summary. Edward

  3. Dipankar Maitra
    Dipankar Maitra October 1, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    Eve teasing to physical torture are all about a sense of ability to overpower the weaker who are taken for granted. Overpowering can be in many forms and can have varied reasons some of which even may not be directly linked to the victim. Reasons are going to stay for a long time and can be smoothed only with decades of corrective efforts. The biggest challenge is how to combat overpowering so that one dare not bring the intention in mind? Already many countries have taken steps through implementation of toll free rescue numbers, stringent punishments if one proved guilty but these steps may not stop one from immediate reaction to overpower the weaker. By the time actions initiate, the weaker might already been overpowered. Definitely then something weaker has to only do. Weaker has to devise new ways to secure, quick ways to inform so that threats can be controlled if not omitted. With this, weaker may not then any more be considered as weaker and taken for granted stamp will slowly disappear. As a society then we have to cull out innovative practices to support the currently weaker section of mankind and help them devising ways of their own to face the every day challenges. It has to be more of pulling exercise that need to be brought in rather than pushing of laws, policing and other stuff.

  4. Nik Soni
    Nik Soni October 1, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    Ashlee,

    Amazing! Well done to highlight this – but – it would be good to hear your thoughts on how to address the need to re frame masculinity so that men don’t feel that violence equates to manliness.

    I think that is the key otherwise this comes across as men bashing – which it is not. Like you say there is an urgent need to work out why this happens. My own (totally non professional observation) was that the ability to be successfully violent was directly attributable to success / wealth and therefore manliness. Breaking that cycle will not be easy.

  5. Mel Dunn
    Mel Dunn September 18, 2013 at 9:09 am

    Ashlee

    Thank you for sharing this very important discussion. I have been a White Ribbon Ambassador for some time and taking a stand for the elimination of violence against women in all its forms is fundamental.

    What I believe is also important to keep in the forefront of this discussion is that we all need to work together, men and women, and that we need to also take a stand against acts that may not appear as damaging as physical/sexual violence yet are signifincant elements of GBV… inappropriate comments, dominant/power behaviours and so on are all aspects of violence against women that should never be committed, tolerated or excused.

    Not all men are bad… but all men can make a difference by taking a stand to make a difference and eradicate this most damaging aspect of inequality.

    If you would like to know more about White Ribbon, you can view here.

    Mel Dunn

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